Rory speaks. Sweta writes. How one addict's story raises questions for reflection for any one of us.
Rory shares a principle he lives by
Well, how's that working for you? This line from Rory always brings me to a halt.
Feeling stressed, I reach for the third consecutive snack from the kids' stash. Well, how's that working for you?
My blood pressures rises when someone slips in a passive aggressive comment. Well, how's that working for you?
Juggling endless to-do lists, I battle the urge to snap at the kids. Well, how's that working for you?
Stress eating, quick anger, and taking my emotions out on others—these learned behaviors take control in the moment. But if I'm honest, it's not working. And Rory's question provides enough of a pause to help interrupt these habits.
Mindlessly snacking won't help me toward my goal of a healthier lifestyle. Losing control over my emotions isn't constructive and I'm only harming my own well-being. Saying things I don't mean to the kids will just create distance and set a poor example for managing stress.
Everyday, I find myself in situations that tempt me into my usual behaviors, but Rory's principle in the video is freeing: I get to decide what I will say and do in this moment, right now. And that is what defines me. Not yesterday's habits or slip-ups, but today's choices. So, what's going to work for me, and not against me? Who do I want to be?
For All of Us: Identify a behavior you're unhappy with. Ask yourself, well, how's that working for you? Then, consciously choose a new path and redefine yourself: What intentional actions can you start today to help counter that behavior?
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